Lode Baptist Chapel
Would the 'Real Men'please stand up!
Recently I've been thinking a lot about men and our changing place in society. I'm supportive of what the feminist movement has achieved for women, but feel that as men we've been left confused about what our role should now be. This shared uncertainty is perhaps an explanation for the lack of positive male role models - in the school, in the home and in the wider community. But what would be the characteristics of such a positive example of manhood be?
In the films we blokes tend to watch the 'hero'is someone with physical strength, someone who frequently uses violence to get what he wants. This 'macho' image continues to be perpetuated, but somehow sits uncomfortably in our modern society. Perhaps this is a contributing factor to the increases in gang culture and domestic abuse?
Then, of course, there is the other portrayal of men, that we frequently see in the so-called 'chick flicks'. These men are usually rich, are always super-sensitive to the emotional needs of the woman and are often buying them gifts or whisking them off on romantic excursions. If the man does have a job, and there are children involved, somehow he manages to maintain a perfect balance between all of the competing aspects of his life.
With such ideals to live up to, it's no wonder so many of us are feeling woefully inadequate and quietly trying to disappear into the background. But let's not spend too much time feeling like we're a victim here! Our lack of commitment to our marriage, our family and our community can have a profound influence on those around us.
So guys - what are we to do? I don't have all the answers, but I do know that first of all we've got to stop being so independent! When we're lost in the car the last thing we want to do is to stop and ask for directions - but if we're to going to get it right in life, we need to start asking one another for help. We need to start standing with one another as a 'band of brothers' - helping each other to be men with the inner strength to do the right thing..
A strong man walks sure-footedly - but a man of strength knows when to ask for help.
A strong man isn't afraid of anything - but a man of strength shows courage in the midst of his fear.
A strong man won't let anyone get the best of him - but a man of strength always gives his best to others.
A strong man works out to keep his body in shape - but a man of strength keeps his soul in shape too.
A strong man believes he is strong enough for the journey - but a man of strength believes that it is in the journey that he will become strong.
If you know of some positive male role models in our own community that we can celebrate, or have other ideas about the role of men in our society, perhaps you'll get in touch.
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